It's interesting that the word "resolution" has, as one of its definitions: "to bring into greater focus" (as in a "microscope's powers of resolution"). So, one way of looking at our new year's resolutions is to decide what we're going to "focus on". Chris and I, both being Aquarians, found this recent Free Will astrological forecast by Rob Brezsny's quite fitting as we refine where we put our attention for this coming year. Perhaps you will too, whatever your sun-sign is!
Aquarian philosopher Simone Weil formulated resolutions so as to avoid undermining herself. First, she vowed she would only deal with difficulties that actually confronted her, not far-off or hypothetical problems. Second, she would allow herself to feel only those feelings that were needed to inspire her and make her take effective action. All other feelings were to be shed, including imaginary feelings—that is, those not rooted in any real, objective situation. Third, she vowed, she would "never react to evil in such a way as to augment it."
One of the feelings we're choosing to focus on this year is forgiveness. Here are two videos we recently came across that show forgiveness at its best. The first one is a 3-year old's response to his mother telling him that she ate all his Halloween candy. Precious.
And the second video features the world's champion of "healthy feelings", and his grandson's response when Fred Roger's fessed up to behaviors he felt he needed to be forgiven for.